12 Apr: RH-ML: Re: LJ correspondence to support@radicalhonesty.com

* Radical Honesty, Mike Lewinsky.
* 12 Apr: RH-ML: Re: LJ correspondence to support@radicalhonesty.com
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From: Radical Honesty Support [mailto:support@radicalhonesty.com]
Sent: Sunday, April 12, 2015 6:53 AM
To: andreamuhrrteyn@mweb.co.za
Subject: Correspondence to support@radicalhonesty.com

Lara,

I’ve received many emails you’ve sent to support@radicalhonesty.com over the last year or so. I imagine that you still resent Brad for saying that you don’t get it. I am going to try to explain what I think he meant.

You seem like you are suffering from your mind’s moralism. I see this in your use of the terms /Radical Honoursty/ and /Ecology of Peace v. War is Peace/.

The practice of Radical Honesty is the opposite of ideals about honor. Being honest for moralistic reasons (such as honor, which is inherently about maintaining a reputation) isn’t necessarily better than lying for moralistic reasons (either way you’re suffering the sickness of moralism instead of treating it).

I have excerpted some of what Brad wrote in _Radical Honesty_ about moralism. I urge you to re-read his books and consider seriously the idea that your moralism of Ecology of Peace is a source of your unhappiness.

/The disease of moralism in adults is characterized by hysterical faith in the mind./…/Adult moralists are always angry people. The more the moralist is confronted with sloppy old experience, the more hysterical he or she becomes. We all get hysterical, but some of us lighten up and come to our senses more often than others. Some of us operate from hysterical moralism most of the time…. //More lawyers have come to me for therapy than have members of any other profession, and it’s not coincidence, since so much of their training is to learn to live by rules. *One important rule they try  to live by is that the proper way to be angry is to have a fight using the rules*. /

I notice you file a lot of court documents and the bulk of your correspondence is legal (or quasi-legal) in nature. You’re trying to have a fight with rules but you want to have a different set of rules to fight with. Changing the rules isn’t going to free your being from the tyranny of your mind.

/*The gap created by lack of grounding in our experience leaves us dependent on ideas, principles, rules, values, and imagination as our primary modes of orientation*. These ideas and values are tightly held in the same way an adolescent grasps onto roles when he joins a gang or becomes a Christian or a Hare Krishna or falls in love and gets married in high school. Without roles and rules we fear we will lose control of ourselves. We will go crazy. We will lose our minds. The more intensely these rules and roles are defended, the further removed from grounding in experience the individual becomes.

After enough practice at role-playing and idealism, *our whole way of orienting ourselves in the world depends on principles of orientation rather than on the ability to respond as needed based on what we perceive*. This moralism, this web of entrapment of human aliveness, is a crippling disease. We all have it. It is terminal. It cannot be cured. It’s a hell of a lot worse than herpes. It is as deadly as AIDS. It is in our schools. It is in our minds. It is in the bloodstream of our culture. It is in this book./

And yes, it is in this email, from me to you. It’s not possible to talk about your mind’s moralism without waking mine.

/Moralism is a disease in which “good” and “bad” become more important than “alive” or “dead.” The heart of the disease is hurt and anger and fear of losing love and hysterical hope that we can somehow figure out how to be good enough to keep hurts from happening again./

/In this quest, control is one of the first things children learn that they need to learn. That was just one of those things we found out when we grew up: we needed to get control of ourselves. But the imposition of control is often the source of anger. The imposition of control on anger is the source of even greater anger.

*Displacement of anger in the form of judgments**and internal moral resolves **results in the child learning to hate everybody else**and eventually himself as well*./

And

/*Therapy consists primarily of teaching people how to **re-contact the experience that exists below their moralism**, or below ideas about how life is and how it should be*. The experiencer normally blocked by moralistic resolve will then gradually come to the foreground, and the moralism, while remaining intact, will recede to the background. One’s life changes, of course, after such a transformation, but the point is not the change. The circumstantial changes are almost incidental; the point is the shift of figure and ground. The figure in the foreground, the mind-bound, harried, “shouldistic” warrior, moves to the background — still alive and well and whole, but no longer leading — and the heretofore background figure, the quiet animal who walks and laughs, taking what’s so in nature, comes to the foreground — even in the city, and even at work. Such a shift is a matter of grace and strikes only those in good-feeling shape who are ready to receive it. /

And

/Reorientation of the being to sources other than the mind is based on being in touch with one’s own body and noticing things in the world. During these times the opportunity for freedom occurs — freedom from the previously developed network of thought. Thinking becomes merely something else to notice and use when one has become reoriented to experience. *Thinking loses its prior status as the primary ruler and jail-keeper of being and becomes more like the chauffeur*./

/Being trapped in the jail of the mind is a disease called moralism. All relief from moralism is temporary because there is no permanent cure. /

If you want a PDF copy of Radical Honesty or Practicing Radical Honesty let me know.

Mike

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